Am I worth the fight??
•03/28/2023 • Leave a CommentNothing is perfect… never has been. Marriage, relationships, love, nothing is safe. To ever be so complacent to think just cause…that your relationship is safe is to be naive. When even in your wrongdoing, there is this small feeling or thought that maybe if a valid fight was put up, maybe that’s the security you needed. See, when everything is over, then the reality comes to the front. How could that person you were with not have an inkling of fight in them about their marriage or relationship. Well, from a man’s perspective, maybe that significant other was just waiting on it to end. Maybe they had some else on the bench. Maybe they were waiting so they could hop into the field. You know what one of the most bullshit statements to hear from someone’s mouth…”I am going to work on myself.” Being alone brings clear thoughts. You start to fill in the pieces to the puzzle. They show you you’re not worth the fight, and the worst part is that you have someone who is fighting harder for someone who is not theirs.
Blood wouldn’t do it justice
•02/24/2018 • Leave a Comment
Good day coffee brown readers! Life is a whirlwind of events and growth stages. In life you have these rare chances at owning something priceless. I am not talking about anything material but that priceless you can’t buy with money. My creator has allowed for me to have true friendship. It’s about eight of us and we have been friends since kindergarten. We have been through life together. Now, Do understand we have had the test of trials with each other. We have seen marriages, divorces, death of close family members, high school, and laughs. We all are separate individuals and completely opposite but when together its a brilliant display of diverse minds.
Letter to my creator
•01/22/2018 • Leave a CommentIt’s not a day of my life that I don’t realize that you have been my protector. I apologize if I haven’t lived up to the standards that you set in place for me. Please know that I love you more than life itself. I have never thought to ever deny you but I do question those that claim to deliver your message. It’s so much going on and I have seen a lot but I openly admit that I lack the attention you need. I could never appreciate or repay you for the sacrifices that you have given for me. I could never tell you that I am even worthy of your sacrifices. I write this letter to you as a disobedient child but please understand it has never been to hurt or defy you. I just have a great deal of scare within me and please don’t let my short cummings represent a result of my love and gratitude for you. I have not been as loyal to you as you have to me. Understand I am as a child that wants to be what you want me to be but I find myself weak to the pressure of the lifestyle to fit in this world. Please don’t give up on me because no matter what, I hold you as precious as air to breath. My state of mind is as fragile as a glass on the edge of a table. I’m weak with many sore spots connected to my heart, I have many avenues that allow access to emotional break downs but not because I don’t have faith, it is because I love with my whole heart and find it hard to express that level of love to be seen. I fear the nakedness of being so open that another knows how to hurt me. I need you and will never think another thought outside of this. I write this asking for your understanding and patience to reserve the grace that you have given and had for me for so long. I know life is a journey and its up to me to make that journey a magical one and I am trying. I just want you to know regardless of the future or past I love your difficult son the coffee brown brother.
Clown Face
•08/16/2017 • Leave a CommentHello how are you? Welcome? It was a pleasure helping you today! The mask, one big mask it seems almost cruel to have to smile happy when you feel like you dying inside. When the only thing you want to do is stick your head in the darkest place and close off from the rest of the world. When it feels like someone kicked a hole in your chest and you take deep breaths throughout the day to hold the tears back. Those 5 min bathroom breakdowns just don’t seem like enough. When you have that kool aid smile going but you rather go through death than to have to deal with what’s going on inside. I’m tired, I’m frustrated, I’m hurt, I’m angry, I’m sad AND I WANT TO SHOW IT!!!! I don’t wanna be encouraging today my soul hurts and I can’t let it out because I have to work both jobs. I don’t have a positive post for you today readers. I only have a rapid fire of emotions but why am I so emotional, men shouldn’t be emotional. I wanna scream and punch the wall. I have feelings and they are caged. I don’t wanna be at work but circumstances say I have to be. I don’t even want anyone preaching about faith, I love God and I’m sure he feels my pain today. I just wanna ball up in a corner…no I’m not the person to go and do something bad to myself I won’t I have children they need me. I don’t wanna wear this clown’s mask today my acting isn’t as sharpe today. I have been up for a full 24 hours my hurt won’t let me sleep. If I’m going through this somewhere somebody else is and they won’t make. They won’t be able to take it. A zombie I am today, a walking dead person that’s just acting like he is living. That’s about a conglomeration of tears and hurt while I mourn in silence on a lunch break in a car. Well “life is a journey it’s …….nawl not today bye readers 😔.
My Journey to Connect with God
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It’s The Little Things
•01/13/2017 • Leave a CommentHave you ever eaten the exact same dish, made by two different chefs both are good but one just taste better than the other? You can’t pinpoint what it is but one chef added something the other didn’t. What could this be? Maybe the chef that made the dish that taste better just worked the little things in the recipe. Maybe he used homemade meatballs instead of meatballs purchased at the store. Today I am seeing that it is the small overlooked acts that are priceless. You know like someone simply acknowledging you or sending a text out the blue telling you that they love you. Wait! but your a guy coffee brown brother, guys don’t care about this stuff. I am here to tell you that if he cares about you then he cares. I’m guilty of overlooking these things but today I actually experienced it happening to me. You never know what small things do to another person. I can actually say for me it controls the position that I would take in any relationship.
Fences
•01/07/2017 • Leave a CommentAbove is a picture from the move Fences. It stars Denzel Washington and Viola Davis they are awesome actors. If you haven’t seen this movie you should not only watch it for the great acting, but for the story line that this movie covers. Every black American male should watch this movie. The movie covers a consistent unseen issue in black American males even today. What do I mean? Fences is about a struggle that a black male is having in society and his biggest enemy is himself. It also covers the issues and pain that we send black american females through with our bitterness, selfishness, and infidelity. It even highlights how we don’t break the chains and scars that our fathers before us have carried on. This post is not to just talk to you about how great this movie was but to cover the issues that we (and I say in guilt the word “WE”) live with today. It was not until the middle of this movie that I felt the meaning of the title fences until one of the characters stated that the fences were sometimes built to keep people and things out or built to keep the people you love in. I was able to see some of me in the type of man Denzel was in this movie. He had a great wife she stood by him no matter what he did and even though he messed up countless times she was still right there for him. He never showed true appreciation to her and expected her to just live with his wrong doings. It is that part that I cannot deny in this movie that was me all the way. If you have ever read my previous blogs you are probably asking “dumbass when will you learn?” and I can tell you today when I lost one of best parts of me that I have ever met. I like Denzel had a second chance and this time it is all me in the wrong. I expected her to just deal with my wrong doings and forget about them. I made her think she wasn’t doing enough so I had to seek it in other people but in reality I wasn’t doing enough and I wasn’t enough for what God had allowed me to meet. Selfishness and self idolization overcame me along with self pity plus deeming world obligation,so let’s break it all down. I disregarded every feeling she had selfishly because I used I instead of we. Self idolization because I expected I to fix all the wrongs, I had done to her through cheating and cheating again and then again, instead of using God and asking God to lead US into the life we should have been living. Self pity came when I was reminded of what I had done to her when I should have taken the blame for the deceitful person that I was being. I felt like the world owed me something and the bad that I caused was because of what others (the white mans system, her consistent nagging for me to tell her I love her, and past relationships which were excuses for me to do wrong because i am insecure) had done to me. The things she was doing and had done for me were owed to me in my mind. Now…….She is gone!!! All I have from that is I. I could imagine that right now before it is too late there is someone that has what I had. I dedicate this post to you to give you the chance to turn your I into WE and make a change before you end up like the character Denzel played and I. Hey!! “Life is journey but it’s up to you to make it a magical one” -Coffee Brown Brother
Back to the Press
•01/07/2017 • Leave a CommentWow!!! It has been a while since I have been on Word Press. I had even forgotten my login and password but gratefully I am back. It’s been many years word press readers life has really went in a different direction for me it been some ups, some downs, some mistakes and some learning. First lets start with the new I grew to a new relationship, daughter was born shes gorgeous, and Got engaged!!!! Don’t get excited I found a way to mess that up but that’s a blog post on it’s on. I am happy to be back and share my new life experiences with you so sit tight with me for this roller coaster of emotions I share with you in this new year of 2017. As always life is journey but it’s up to you to make it a magical one
Sincerely,
Coffee Brown Brother